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Earlier this month news of Kim Zolciak's lesbian relationship with DJ Tracy Young surfaced, although Zolciak claimed to still be involved with the mysterious married man "Big Poppa." However, the "Real Housewives of Atlanta" starlet has finally broken her silence in the new issue of "Life & Style" (on newsstands now) and 'fessed up to being in love with a lady.

"I don't believe love has a gender. I have a ton of girlfriends who have been with girls, and I could never comprehend that before. Now I can. But I don't want to define gay, bisexual or straight. I just think it's too much for me — a woman doesn't define me, nor does a man," Pop Tarts can reveal exclusively she told the mag. "I'm among the millions of parents who have been in a gay or lesbian relationship. It hasn't been an easy road lately, but I feel there are no mistakes in my life. Everything happens for a reason. To have the opportunity to speak for myself and to have people understand what I'm going through is really special. I myself was confused and scared at first. Being able to speak from my heart and get this all out, it’s a huge relief for me."

Zolciak also opened up about falling for Young and their first lip-lock.

"We were both going through heartbreak at the time. I had split up with Big Poppa, and she had just ended a relationship she had been in for three years. The first night we met, we just connected on a different level. We ended up talking for two hours. After that, we started working in the studio together, remixing 'Tardy for the Party.' We gradually became closer," she added. "There were sparks, but [physically] it was a gradual situation. Tracy made the first move. Our first kiss was passionate and exciting."